August 10, 2019

For most couples, the arrival of a baby will always come with a mixture of excitement, fatigue of previously unknown proportions, and worry as they get to grips with the new role of being parents. Becoming a parent is always a monumental change, and one that ushers in...

July 31, 2019

My nan was born in St Ives in 1912, and grew up on a farm near Botallack - right slap bang on the Tin Coast. I always felt so sad for her that she never returned to Cornwall before she died. Having married a military man, she travelled a great deal, settling in Aldersh...

January 29, 2019

"I'm fat."

"I'm an idiot."

"I never get what I want; everything I do goes wrong."

"I'm not the favourite in my family; everyone prefers my brother."

"There must be something wrong with me."

I wonder if you'd say any of the things above to your best friend? No? Why's that th...

January 16, 2019

[Scene takes place in the room the therapist rents. The walls are magnolia, there's a box of tissues on the table top, two glasses of water and a great pile of paper and files in the corner.]

Client: I feel so powerless. I don't know how to move on from here.

Therapist:...

December 18, 2018

I read somewhere recently that people felt like they 'had' to be cheerful and positive at Christmas. Now, I hate anything that whiffs of obligation; it sends me right into the rebellious child ego state and I just HAVE to play Devil's advocate! To make my point, I turn...

November 8, 2018

So, I'm going to ask for a show of hands here, and I want you to be honest. Here goes...

a) When you spend time with a certain friend, you often leave feeling worse than when the coffee date started

b) When you meet up with certain friends, you revert to the person you w...

October 9, 2018

One area of my expertise is working with anxiety and stress. 85% of my client base is formed of people who are experiencing stress or anxiety in one or more areas of their lives, which is no surprise when you look at what we've come to accept as 'everyday life'. Why, y...

September 15, 2018

Maybe it's because I'm a child of the eighties, but I really do believe you can nurture the tiniest seed of an idea to fulfilment. There's a chance that I watched too much 'Why Don't You?', 'Blue Peter' and 'Tomorrow's World', but that entrepreneurial spirit has always...

July 5, 2018

For the first time since I started going to school in 1985, I've found myself free from half terms, term times and timetables. For more than a decade, my calendar would be colour-coded: orange highlighter indicated the beginning and end of half-terms and school holiday...

July 3, 2018

If you've been following my blog, Instagram, Twitter or Facebook page, it won't have escaped you that Revolution took place in this year's Farnham carnival parade. Long before I'd launched my counselling business, one thing I was determined to do was to make talking th...

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