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Case Study: Stress Management Workshops with The Ridgeway

For most couples, the arrival of a baby will always come with a mixture of excitement, fatigue of previously unknown proportions, and worry as they get to grips with the new role of being parents. Becoming a parent is always a monumental change, and one that ushers in decades of adjusting. Imagine, then, what it must feel like when your baby arrives and he or she doesn't behave like the 'other' kids, may not look like the 'other' kids, or doesn't learn like the 'other' kids. Imagine what it must feel like for it slowly to dawn on you that being a parent for you isn't going to be the 'mainstream' experience you had expected, and that the hopes and dreams you indulged in over the 9 months of waiting may never materialise for you or your child.


The Situation:

The above is the reality for the parents of children who attend The Ridgeway School in Farnham, Surrey. The Ridgeway is a Special School which caters for children, aged between 2 and 19, with severe, profound and complex needs. For example, many of the children at the school are diagnosed with autism, cerebral palsy and epilepsy to name but a few conditions the children and their parents have to learn to live with. These mums and dads are not just parents: they are around the clock carers for their children.

The Brief:

Back in March 2019, local hypnotherist, Vivienne Evans, and myself were asked to design and deliver a stress management workshop to a group of 10 parents from the school. Meeting with the head of the parents' committee, Ann-Marie, over coffee, it became evident just how difficult the lives of the parents were. Wanting to ensure we pitched the workshop as accurately as we could, we discussed the challenges and needs the parents had. Ann-Marie gave an insight into lives which were an on-going battle and which took a tremendous amount of energy to live. The challenges Ann-Marie outlined were:

* Lack of sleep, as some children need constant supervision or don't sleep well

* Financial pressures

* Hypervigilence and being 'on alert' - especially in regards to epileptic children

* The guilt of not spending enough time with their other children

* Isolation from spouses, because one of them is always 'on duty', and from

'mainstream' parents due to a lack of understanding or shared experience

* The loss and grief from the life you and your child won't live

* Coming to terms with your child attending a 'special school' and how this changes the way your child's success will be measured

* The impact on confidence and self-esteem - both of the parents and the children

* Not getting time to yourself just to switch off

The Taster:

Using our insights from Ann-Marie, Vivienne and I collaborated to design a workshop that focused on the main needs that had been flagged up. We sought to use hypnotherapy to help delegates to relax and counselling techniques to help them explore their situation and forge new ways of coping. We ran two taster workshops in total and the success of the workshops was evident in the 'before' and 'after' feedback taken from the second set of delegates. which you can see below. Evaluating our work, the techniques that made the biggest impact were Vivienne's mindfulness exercise and relaxation script and my explanation of the movement the parents could make from 'The Dreaded Drama Triangle' to 'The Creator Orientation'. The message we wanted to give them was that they could change something in their lives to ensure that they were meeting their own needs.

Revolution Psychotherapy & Counselling Stress Management Workshop

Turns out that we got this message across loud and clear and they all shifted into a powerful creative orientation there and then, realising that what they really needed was sustained external support: the parents wanted us to deliver a course of workshops to help them maintain their wellbeing.

The Short-Course:

A short series of four ninety minute workshops was planned for July 2019, and these were focused around the biggest need the parents had: the need to switch off....but I wanted to challenge them further: I didn't just want it to be 90 minutes of bliss only to send them back to exhaustion, stress and isolation afterwards. No. I was passionate that they be encouraged to maintain their stress management well beyond the workshop itself. To me, it was important to empower these parents. Ann-Marie chose the most wonderful of settings for our workshops at Farnham Potteries, Wrecclesham, and, armed with a cappachino, the short-course began ... ok, there was cake, too...